1. Just be YOU

Stop checking your life against one of society’s prewritten stories of who you should be. You are far more interesting than anyone else’s description you try to fit yourself into & more intricate than society’s story of who you “should” be.

The problem is that when you think you have to “look” for things in life like love, meaning, purpose & inspiration, the “looking” means you start asking yourself questions that lead you further & further outside yourself, which is not where the answers you seek live. You are the only person that can create your own love, define your own meaning & cultivate your own inspiration.  This process starts on the inside, not somewhere else.  Ask yourself these questions:

  • “Who am I?”
  • “What do I need?”
  • “How do I function best?”
  • “What do I have to give?”
  • “What’s the next step I can take right now?”

2. When life gets tough

We all experience difficult times, that is part of life, the difference is, how you deal with it. It is not the experience or situation that holds you back & drives you mad, but the regret about something that happened or the fear of what tomorrow might bring. But we can all fight the battle of just one day. Therefore smile, let others know there is still hope. But don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while, because when it happens, it will open opportunity for you to grow and build yourself into a stronger version of yourself.  Remember sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your spirit needs most. 

3. When that small voice begs you to listen…listen

There will be a distinct few times in your life when all your intuition will tell you to do something, sometimes it will be something that messes up your plans & seems completely silly to others.  When this happens, sit quietly & listen.  Ignore what you’re “supposed” to do, ignore the odds, ignore what everyone else wants you to do & just go for it. If you don’t risk anything, you risk everything & you can’t always wait for the perfect time.  Sometimes you must jump.  Sometimes all you need is 30 seconds of insane courage of uncomfortable bravery & I promise you, something great will come your way.

4. Your power is within

Do you perhaps give up your power because you think you they don’t have any?  In a world filled with doubt, you must dare to dream! Never let anyone steal your dreams.  Stay optimistic & focused.  Being positive when negativity surrounds you is not naive, it’s leadership.  Work hard in silence, do what you have to do & ignore the drama & negativity surrounding you.  Let your success be your noise.  

5. Literally count your blessings

Give thanks & take nothing for granted.  Being happy doesn’t mean you have it all, it means you appreciate it all.  So stop worrying & complaining all the time.  Life is too short.  Instead of focusing on how stressed you are, remember how blessed you are. You probably have more than you realize and have what many hope for. So be thankful today.  Life isn’t perfect, it’s just pretty damn good.

6. Speak your truth

Don’t hide your thoughts & feelings, especially when you can make a difference.  Be brave.  There is no greater sadness than holding on to the honest words you never had the courage to speak.  Trying to make everyone happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar.  You have to tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.  Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind & peace of mind is priceless.  

7. Practice kindness 

When you judge other, it blinds you and you can’t love.  Be compassionate & kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.  Everyone has a story that may be equally or more complex than yours, pay attention, listen and know that everyone you meet has something important to teach you. You were made to make a difference, so embrace every opportunity to do so.  No act of your kindness, no matter how tiny, will ever be wasted.

8. Let life guide you.

Life is unpredictable.  Some of the greatest moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do, they’ll be things that happen to you. Don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door & your whole life can change in an instant – for better or worse. But in the end you end up exactly in the right place at the right time. Trust the journey and don’t try to be perfect.  Just be a beautiful example of being human…